Needing Change

Dear Becca,

I’m at a point in my life where I need a change. I’m wondering how you got the courage to pack up what you can and move across the country?


Needing Change

Hi Needing Change,

True courage is facing change even when you are scared and that kind of courage is something that already resides within your heart.

All you need is confidence in yourself and faith in your own abilities.

I struggled through my late teenage years and into my early twenties. I worked overnight shifts, waitressed at a diner, bagged groceries all while living on my own and attending college full-time. I trudged through those years pleading for a goddamn break, wishing my parents could help me financially, dreaming that I could be like the other kids in college.

But despite my pleas for a different life, I made it though and I am beyond grateful for those shitty days where I was exhausted and broke as fuck. Those years taught me self-reliance. And no one can take that away from me.

The faith in myself, the confidence in my own abilities is what I used as fuel in the face of the biggest change of my life. When I moved to Charlotte, I never once thought of myself as brave or courageous. I was really scared, but I kept telling myself that I was resourceful and persevering.

I packed up my life because I knew I could.

I drove across the country because I knew I could.

I started fresh in a new city because I knew I could.

I did all this despite being absolutely terrified because I fucking knew I had it in me.

And I’d be damned to not give it everything I had.

So, Needing Change, I want you to think back to a time when you struggled. I want you to think of a time when shit hit the fan and you felt like throwing in the towel. Instead of trying to summon courage as if it’s some sort of elusive spirit, tell yourself firmly that you’ve made it before and you will make it again. As long as you’re confident in yourself, you can’t be told jack shit otherwise.

Pick somewhere, apply for jobs, put a deadline on the calendar and get rid of anything that doesn’t bring you joy.

Get in your car (or on the plane, boat, bike, whatever, etc.) and go. Because you can. You already have the courage in plenty.